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Confidence as a function of competence

Parenting’s hard. One day you’re a successful professional person with a clear path forward; the next, you’re just another imperfect human trying their best to avoid messing up their kids. Which is why I listen to parenting books and podcasts. Because I am a student of psychology, always. And because I recognize that young kids …

Where are you facing?

Recently my nightly scroll time switched from furtive furniture shopping (buying couches online is stressful, no?) to pandemic conspiracy research (but are they really conspiracies?). Which is to say that, as December faded into January, I was busy consuming online content that had precisely nothing to do with the new year content season. I think …

When change stacking leads to transformation

We’ve all heard that change is the only constant. Isn’t it remarkable then, when long stretches of time pass with barely any change at all? You stay in a role for years longer than you anticipated. The starter home ends up being your forever home. You eat the same breakfast out of the same bowl …

Turning the page

I’ve started this post at least four times now, since November. Probably because there is so much to say and yet I couldn’t decide which things I wanted to say. I just know I want to say something. I want to inspire the people who are looking at 2021 and desiring to climb in their …

When the paradigm explodes

Many people are having a moment of reckoning right now. In the uncomfortably bright light of pandemic life, we see more clearly – what has and has not been working at work. About a year ago I wrote a series called “what is work” and the third installment was about how your work is changing …

Manufacturing resilience (AKA start loving failure)

Lately I’ve been listening to development psychologists talk about raising kids (I consider it professional and personal research). I heard Dr. Polly Young-Eisendrath on the subject of self-esteem, and the reality that sometimes the most “privileged” kids – ones with the most material abundance, the best educations, and the most protected upbringing – end up …

Take up more space

I’m not even going to get into what we do to girls and women when it comes to taking up space with their bodies. If you’re my reader, you know about that, and you know it’s a problem. I will say that every week when I teach my prenatal yoga class, I find myself saying …

Practicing radical optimism

Listening to my parenting power song while I write this. “That I would be good even if I did nothing. That I would be good even if I got the thumbs down.” Writing the words as I’m listening reminds me of being a teenager, when I would listen to Lisa Loeb and the CD soundtrack …

Playing for prizes

I didn’t grow up playing video games, but I saw enough Nintendo at friends’ houses to glean this: you ran / hopped / glided through different obstacle-filled environments, intentionally running into things, in order to score points. …right? Can’t you just hear the digital music in the background? #80sbaby Lesson #1 from the parenting journey …